Tools for relationships.
Emotional safety messages.
The emotional brain is looking for specific messages in an intimate relationship.
The judgment trap.
Our brains like to judge. When we judge our partners, we get blamey which is relationship poison. You can break out of this trap.
Compassionate listening.
This is the most powerful tool I’ve found for healthy relationships of all types.
How to shift a relationship moment. Watch this from one of my favorite movies, Moonstruck, and then read the “Two Truths” article below.
Two Truths.
When I’m hurting in my relationship, I have a choice of two truths. Which do I focus on when?
Sexual Connection.
Sex is complicated. I try to clear up some of the confusion about healthy sexual connection.
Repairing Conflict.
This worksheet can help you reconnect after conflict.
Bidding for connection.
We all bid for connection with our intimate partners. The problem is we bid in vague ways, we miss a lot of our partner’s bids, and everybody ends up feeling rejected.